A lot of times I will just stand with Nelson and look where he is looking. I want to know more about his point of view, what is interesting to him, and what he sees.
I never really know. But that is the point. We cannot know what another sees or feels unless they tell us directly. We make assumptions (which are fictions) and then pursue a course of action or inaction based on those assumptions. More fiction.
When I am with Nelson, I don’t pretend to know what is interesting to him, or how he sees the world. Sometimes he will be very clear in horse language (movement). A spook generally means something was scary. Coming close means that he feels safe or he wants a treat or both.
I like that things with Nelson are very basic. I spend a great deal of time complicating and elaborating in many other parts of my life. Being with the horses is a chance to step away from all of that, to get clear, and have a conversation in the language of skin, muscle and bone. And heart, and heart.