Liam & Esme having a moment
Mostly I avoid these kind of interactions. Then one will come out of the blue and surprise me. This picture reminds me of my father and I at various points in our relationship. I always figured that I got my big fight muscles doing battle with him. But I actually think the opposite is true. I think that this builds rigidity, fear and a headache.
A few years ago I read The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book)
- Be impeccable with your word
- Don’t take anything personally
- Don’t make assumptions
- Always do your best
The trainer at the barn where I kept my horse at the time had them posted inside the tack room. She wanted a more mindful environment in her stable. I think that it did keep us on our toes, mostly in the right way. I would love it if politicians had to sign a binding agreement to follow them.
These days I will do a lot to avoid smack talk. Close up shop if necessary – hang out the closed sign. Or treat it like a big wave and duck dive. Come back when the sun is out.