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dive, fly

Today I mailed my manuscript to a publisher that I believe to be the perfect fit for my book.  I toiled over the cover letter, and then wrapped it – swaddled it really – in its packaging.  I want it to be safe. Sending it is both a dive and a flight.  Preparing it took months.  It felt important to say exactly what I want to say; to read it and revise it until the simplicity and fullness of that shone through. I stopped writing anything that felt like selling and wrote only what felt authentic and embodied.  Like these blog posts, where I write and then shake it out and see what remains, what is essential, necessary.

So it’s off, flying to California, diving into the river of manuscripts, all leaving hopeful hands, sailing onto anonymous desks.  Actually, I think that it is important to dive and fly in some way everyday.  Today’s other dive is about love.  Love of that work that I have been nurturing.  Love of myself – or finding a way to feel that better and more reliably.  Because I think that loving will open me to the places where love is harder, where betrayal and abandonment have dried me like a husk, where hopeful rains no longer fall.  Am I being to abstruse?  That’s ok.  In Authentic Movement, the mover moves, and the witness, watching, takes their own journey of feeling and imagination.  Their experiences may be utterly different – connected by the mover’s moving, but perhaps journeying to opposite poles.

So I wonder, when I speak of hard love, or harder loving, what comes to mind?

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your own holy body

 


O keep squeezing drops of the Sun
From your prayers and work and music
And from your companions’ beautiful laughter
And from the most insignificant movements
Of your own holy body.

                                                                        Hafiz

sisters

This is my sister, Janet.  I took this picture when we were traveling across Minnesota, through Arlington and Luverne (where my father was born and grew up), Taylor’s Falls, all the way to Sioux Falls, South Dakota, where our mother was born.  Along the way, we scattered her ashes.  It was an incredible, rich, sad, happy, big trip for both of us – one that was glorious in the details, like this image of the big, carved cottonwoods along the Mississippi in St. Paul, where we started our journey.  Or the way the falls in Sioux Falls swirled and feathered the last of her ashes down the river.

I have been thinking a lot about the blessings and importance of sisters because our oldest daughter is now facing the necessity of acting with extraordinary courage in the face of her sister’s crisis.  I was listening to Brene Brown’s moving book on shame – I Thought It Was Just Me – in the car the other day.  She said that etymology of courage is heart, and to be courageous is not just about brave or noble deeds, but speaking with one’s whole heart and innermost feelings.

I don’t know if my sister and I have always been courageous.  There is being timid, not wanting to deal with it, or feeling afraid of speaking clearly and openly.  There are all the boundaries, limitations and failures of heart that are tethered to fear.  Sometimes, it takes a crisis to scorch us into an alchemical transformation. – that moment when we are honed by fire and tears.  For my sister and I, it was the long illnesses and death of our parents.  For my daughter, it may be this crisis.

 


prisoners

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“Wexford knew that so many people are their own prisoners, jailers of themselves, that the doors which to the outside world seem to stand open they have sealed with invisible bars.  They have blocked off the tunnels to freedom, pulled down the blinds to keep out the light.”        The Veiled One by Ruth Rendell

I have been listening to The Veiled One, (wonderfully narrated by Davina Porter) and was struck by this quote.  It got me thinking:  what are the ways that I am my own jailer?  Where in my life am I not feeling, thinking, moving outside of the box?  Why?  What are the limitations that imprison me?

Here is a partial list:  habits, assumptions, laziness, fear, complacency, fear, rigidity, fear. discouragement, distraction, fear, confusion, sloppiness, fear, desire, expectation, fear, reputation.   And oh, did I mention fear?

Imprisonment can masquerade as rigor, diligence, obsession, duty, even love.  Right now, I need to go outside and look at the peonies and take a breath.

The angel card I just picked was “freedom.”  Where is this freedom?  If I close my eyes and feel into that, it is a multi-sensory, expansive, receptive experience of this moment.  So simple.  So easy to forget.   Dropping into that puts me in touch with this: